Finding your diet journey can be very confusing. You see someone having wonderful success and you want to duplicate it. You work it, but do not have success. You feel like, "I must be broken because this works for everyone except me." It leaves you frustrated, sad, defeated, and hopeless.
IF you can view it as an experiment and NOT a failure, this will help you find YOUR map for YOUR journey.
A friend gives you a map of a journey that THEY took and you head off to try it. You read the signs slightly different than they did. You drive a different vehicle than they did. You get a different "mpg" than they did. You end up taking longer than they did. You might even end up 5 or 10 miles off course than they did. Did that work for you? Time for a new map.
Here are the various tweaks I have tried through the years:
NO carb or low carb
No fat or high fat (a personal favorite)
Exercise or NO exercise
Dairy or NO dairy
Artificial sweeteners or natural sweeteners or NO sweeteners
Counting calories or counting carbs or no counting at all
Low carb processed snack foods or real food only
Vitamins or only natural foods
Organic or not
Grass-fed or not
Yeast free, gluten free, food free....
AND ON AND ON AND ON.
It can make you dizzy!
A person raises their hand high and says, "HERE! I have the solution!" and we all scramble as sheep to the trough. We graze and think, "Hmmm.. not bad. Wonder if it could be better?" At this point, some of the sheep are very satisfied and have found their sweet spot. Other sheep are thinking, "Bla-ahahaha... Not working!"
Another person raises their hand and says, "HERE! Here is the answer!" and again, the unhappy sheep scramble to the next trough in search of...
OKAY... let's put this in perspective. O N E S I Z E D O E S N O T F I T A L L !
It is not a failure when the coat does not fit. FIND A DIFFERENT COAT or you will freeze!
I mean, seriously. If you went shopping and tried on a pair of shoes two sizes different than your foot, would you think, "OMG! I am such a failure! Shoes do not fit me! There is something wrong with me! I give up and guess I WILL BE BAREFOOT FOR-E V E R !!"
We do that with diet, don't we?
It is your life. Pursue it.
Try it on. If it fits, wear it. If it does NOT fit, put it back on the rack and move to the next size.
BUT by all means do not give up.
Things to try:
Journaling or blogging
Food monitoring (for allergies)
... and above all RESEARCH.
You are repairing the damage done to the body after years of ignorance (personal experience). It takes a good map and a few detours to find your way. Just don't give up on the journey.